Hello Nouce
I will say “Happy Birthday” to you. Why? Well for me my birthday brings out my “better self”, my “inner child”, if you will. My “inner child” says, “I want to feel special. I want to feel good. I want to bathe in the warm waters of the love and caring that others have for me.” I know it’s selfish, but that is the nature of children. On my birthday, for this one day, I relish in it – guilt free. So sweet, precious girl, feel the love that comes to you from each and every one of your VirtualFriends here at Virtual Hospice.
You said, “You can't say that even to friends, so it's very lonely.” Nouce, pardon my “but-in-ski” here, but YES YOU CAN. Most people have no idea how dear they are to others and how willing others are to hear the truth, the raw pain and then offer comfort through “active listening”. Of course you must choose those people carefully, but deep in your heart you know who they are.
Do reach out to those near you. Don’t feel like you are imposing upon them. You are not. In fact if you do not allow them to comfort you, I believe that you might deny them a wonderful gift. What gift? The gift that they will receive later as their “better selves” reassure them that they are a good, kind, caring compassionate person. Many people never hear those words spoken about them and to them. So it is important to have these feelings be reinforced and to be allowed to have these life-sustaining thoughts grow inside of ourselves.
I share some sweet words with you that were written by Marc Chernoff:
“In the midst of hard times, it’s easy to look around and see a bunch of people who seem to be doing just fine. But they’re not. We’re all struggling in our own way. And if we could just be brave enough to open up about it, and talk to each other, we’d realize that we are not alone in feeling lost and alone. When you hear yourself say, “I am all alone,” it’s just your worried mind trying to sell you a lie. There’s always someone who can relate to you. Perhaps you can’t immediately talk to them, but they are out there.”
Ps We at Virtual Hospice certainly are.
~eKim