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Loss of all the grandparents, great difficulty to cope 
Créé par khimy
31 mai 2023, 20 h 12

Hello everyone.
I lost all of my grandparents within 3 years, the first one in a traumatic way, the two last ones within the last 8 months. I can't help but often feel a terrible and strong sadness. I know sadness leaves with time to be replaced with mostly good memories, but those last months have been very difficult for me, losing the 2 last ones.
I do not have much friends nor good friends, I am in my mid-30s with no kids and might not make a family anytime soon.
Since I was a kid, I have always been very shy, socially awkward, and my grandparents, unlike anyone else on this planet, have always been my "shelter", my friends, my confidents, with whom I could share anything and everything and always be myself. This bond I shared with them was really strong.
Today, without them, I don't have anyone anymore with whom I can share this kind of pain ( and really not with a professional ), but I still don't know how to cope with it. I have a busy job, and I try to keep myself occupied because anyway life goes on, however, they had been such an important part of my life, it is hard to cope. I don't know how to advance positively in my life without them, I feel like there is just no point anymore to make any efforts ( in a social perspective )... Your thoughts are welcome. Thank you.
01 juin 2023, 23 h 48

Hello Khimy,
Welcome to the forum. I am glad you found us. The loss of people so important in your life - for a long time too - is a huge loss. Do you have others in your family - perhaps parents, siblings or aunts and uncles - who share that loss and with whom you can talk to about the loss of your grandparents?  I have found it so helpful to be able to talk withe people who have known by name those in my life who have died. It can be a comfort. 

I wondered if you had seen these articles - written and developed by the Canadian Virtual Hospice? Caring for yourself and When your grandparent has died

I think you live outside of Canada and am not sure what resources you have that might be helpful.

Please let  me know if you take a look if the articles have raised any questions for you. I look forward to hearing from you.

Kind regards,

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