Hi Mary09
Thank heaven for Sunday. Today I actually left Mom for a short period to deliver a Birthday gift
to her cousin. Her cousin is a lovely lady, a little younger than my Mom but very close in relationship. It was nice to have a break from the regular routine. Mom sleeps more each day and doesn't leave the bed except to use the washroom. Since I attended to all her needs before I left, I felt satisfied to go out.
I do live with my Mom. I used to live in Brampton but came back home to help her. She lives in the country and lives comfortably in the house. She had a chairlift installed 6 years ago that did help her with the stairs. Since she doesn't leave her bedroom except to go to her heart doctor
I have things covered well.
My brothers basically do their own thing. They both are really in denial about how ill my Mom is. They know the true but do not want to accept it, so they come around when it's convenient for them. In some ways both Mom and I prefer it because then there is no drama or problems.
I also have loss intouch with my friends in the pass. Some of them I just outgrew and others meant to keep intouch but got busy with their own lives and moved on. I once was married to a chef but my marriage only lasted 6 years. He was a hard worker but not dedicated to his marriage. He had romimng eyes!! I wish I had kids but never got the chance. I think I would have been a good mother. I love children . I have a niece and a grand niece that I get a chance to spend time with.
My father passed away almost 14 years now, some times it feels like yesterday and other days
it's longer. Dad was a hared working man, he really didn't talk much to us kids but I knew I could count on him and he loved me. He wasn't closed to his own parents except for his father before he died.
I'm still painting the cupboards and woodwork in the Kitchen. Mom has a very large Kitchen, approximately 14 cupboards and 10 drawers. Her colours are Wedgewood Blue and White.
Before I paint anything I have to apply painters tape so I do not paint over the 2 colours. It is a very challenging job but it's coming along and the new fresh coat of paint does wonders to the room.
You have your handsful just being a mother, wife and caregiver. You are allowed to feel overwhelmed, tired, frustrated, etc. There are so many hours in the day and you can only do so much. This summer just seemed to fly by so fast. I worked on my Dad's gardens and grew tomatoes and green peppers this year. Prices of food are too expensive so I decided to grow my own vegetales. Mom loves her Strawberry Rhubarb compote so I bought 3 flats of strawberries and prepared themfor winter . We use to have a swimming pool behind the house but the liner was starting to go, and no one was swimming much anymore, so Dad filled the pool in and made a beautiful rock garden. Since he had put so much work and sweat into it I keep it weeded and tidy. I grow my own Rhubarb, wash, clean and freeze it for when needed.
There are 2 large Birch trees on Mom's property, one at the front of the house and the other at the back. I usually wait until most of there leaves fall before raking up the leaves. We own a leaf blower but since my concussion from work I can no longer use it because the vibration from it affects my head.
Tommorow I will get my snowtires put on my car at 8 am. Mom will be sleeping peacefully so I can slip out quietly and get them done and be back at the house without her missing me. I have to pick and choose the time to do my errands.
I hope your husband is understanding of your circumstances involving your mother. People can say they understand and empathize with you but unless they've experience something similar they really do not know the anguish and emotional roller coaster you go through. My momhad her father move in and live with her and dad the last 4 years of his life. Dad would sometime recent Grandpa living with them even though he wasn't a burden to them. I also moved back in after my divorce for 4 years. Mom would never leave the house unless someone was with Grandpa, she felt obligated to him and wanted him safe and secure. My Grandfather passed away at the age of 93. He was a sweet, gentle soul and had a pretty fulfilled life. I'm very much like my mother, you look after your own family no matter what. My mom has been good to me, strick but good, I will do anything in my power to make her safe, secure, loved and comfortable. I believe you were raised the same way, you are very loving and dedicated to your family, husband and children. You should feel very proud of what you have accomplish because looking after your Mom and Dad is a very honourable task. Hope you are enjoying your Sunday. keep smiling and remember, you have a friend to lean on. Cheryl