Hi Razz,
I know that you will find support and resources using Virtual Hospice. I sure did!
You sure have your hands full and my only suggestion is that you pace yourself and do things for yourself on a regular basis. I have encountered so many people who just give so-o-o much that they end up in the hospital. If the stress takes its toll, you will not be in any shape to help the people that rely on you.
Don't think it is selfish to take ME time~