Welcome debbie123 – as the rest of us you've come to our community at a very hard time in your life. Your words show how much you and your mom love each other – what a great gift. I wonder if that love might help you as you have more difficulty understanding what your mom is saying to you. Would it help to talk to her about some of the conversations you have had in the past – memories, interests? She may not be able to talk to you the sound of your much loved voice and the memories you share could bring her comfort – and you as well. You could direct your questions regarding pain medication to Ask a Professional .
In my experience loving someone who is ill makes me feel so helpless, but I find comfort in words of the article When death is near when it says, “… the simple presence of loved ones near the end is usually more important than what is done or said.”
I am not sure if you saw a thread started by another member Andreadzel called Losing my Mom - Taking this so hard .
Are there other family members and friends who are supporting you and your mother debbie123?
Katherine