Hi Tsunami Living
The whys are so very common and natural as we grieve and of course the answers are rare. I was curious if your wife has lung cancer. Radon gas in our homes causes 18% of lung cancers in Canada.
Hi Nadi
Guilt is very common in greiving and does not even have to make sense, things out of ones control.
Guilt is a poison, it must be met head on and resolved. Ask yourself about your intent. Ask yourself would your mom want you to be carrying this grief. You did the best you could in the situation and with the knowledge you had. Focus on mourning her loss, sharing the memories and continue to go your relationship with her, even though she is no longer physically with you.
To both of you, in Clagary, the Bob Gaslgow Grief Centre has an amazing program.
Alan Wolfelt is one of many great writers on grief.
Actively do the work of greiving and you will sing and dance again.