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Réponse de sunshine79
05 oct. 2021, 21 h 21

I couldn't agree more. Maybe that is something this site would allow so people can solidify supports? 
 
05 oct. 2021, 21 h 34

Hi
This is Katherine (the moderator). I am following the conversation and just looking for some possible solutions for you. I will get back to you as soon as I have more information. 

Kind regards,Katherine
 
Réponse de Mary09
05 oct. 2021, 22 h 48

Thank you Katherine....that would be great. 
 
Réponse de country pumpkin
05 oct. 2021, 22 h 52

Thank you both Sunshine09 and Mary09

My Mom has congenerated Heart disease and renol Kidney failure and has been bedridden
for almost 2 years.  She used to be very independent and now relies on myself for everything
except making financial actions.  I have 2 older siblings but they do not help as much.  I find
I get overwhelmed with all the work that needs to be accomplished in the house as well as doing
all the errands and etra chores.  My Mom is my best friend and I'll do anything for her.  I find I'm
an emotional eater and have been eating more food since the Covid appeared.  We are very
fortunate, we live in the country and have 12 acres of land.  There is never enough time in the
day to get things complete.
  I find I'm been crying more at time in my room alone and feeling anxious to life in general.  Mom
was given about 1 1/2years left for her living and I'm on edge all the time.  I give my heart to anyone who has love ones that need the extra care!  Life is short and we never know when it will end for each of us.  I try to see the positive in people and in life in general.  Covid has worn all of us down considerably and we need to remember everyone has their sad story.  I generally live by being good to people and try to help those who are less fortunate.
 Thank you to all for letting me share my fears and stress.  God be with you all.
 Country Pumpkin
 
 
Réponse de Mary09
06 oct. 2021, 0 h 14

Im so sorry Country Pumpkin...
I feel like I could almost hear my own thoughts coming through your post.  I am an emotional eater also and it has been my only way of coping with all the stress.  It's a very unhealthy way to do it but I have neither time nor motivation to do anything else.  My mom was given about the same timeframe.  I feel every emotion...sadness...loneliness...anger...guilt..you name it.  I think the moderator is looking into a way of connecting people.  If you'd like I would be happy to chat with you and Sunshine to share some support.  It's really hard not having anyone who understands.  Only if you're comfortable with that..no pressure.  And if it's possible. 

Take care...and know you aren't alone. 


 
 
Réponse de sunshine79
06 oct. 2021, 18 h 38

I'm with Mary when I read your words, Country Pumpkin. So many similar feelings and struggles. I don't even feel like I have an immediate support system with my husband because he has absolutely no relationship with his family, and doesn't want one, and continues to tell me that I have to keep living and looks so confused if he sees me looking sad or crying. He doesn't know how to be comforting and I feel like I'm dredging through this alone...other than my counsellor or my sisters when we talk. 

I too would love to connect with you both. Even if we create new email addresses and can do group emails with each other.  

Hugs and here's hoping we have a lighter day. 
 
Réponse de Mary09
06 oct. 2021, 18 h 48

Oh my goodness Sunshine...
my Hisband is the exact same.  Not close to his family and has no understanding of why I do what I do every day.  That leaves me with no one to talk to about everything.  I have no siblings and have lost touch with my friends over the years so this is pretty much what I do with my life.  I used to see a therapist which helped but she would always tell me to set boundaries and although I know shes right it's not that easy when you're the only one to take care of your loved one. 
I hope we can connect in a group email.  Sending you ((hugs)) and hoping for brighter days ahead.

Katherine...are we allowed to post our email on here?  I don't want to break any rules but would love to connect with these ladies if we can.

 
 
Réponse de country pumpkin
06 oct. 2021, 22 h 28

Hi Mary 09 & Sunshine09
Thank you for your support.  I'm up to talking to both of you just to know there are others
that are going through similar problems and emotions.  My older brother is very controlling
and doesn't want me to vent to him or show my emotions and my other brother keeps reminding
me that Mom is going to pass.  They don't want to visit with her but expect me to be the caregiver
and keep up with all the household chores, errands etc.  Right now I'm painting my Mom's Kitchen, from top to bottom.  I really don't mind because I need something to distract me from what is really happening around me.  There are people that have more problems and are less fortunate, so
I do count my blessings each day.  As I've been told God doesn't give us anymore than we cannot
handle. I can no longer work because of an accident I had at my last job.  Then Covid came along.
Each day is different and each day I try to see something good of it.  The leaves are turning and 
the colours are beautiful to admire from afar. I hope both of you have someone other than your
spouse or family to talk to. I talk to my Mom;s cousin.  She recently lost 2 sisters and her husband
these last few years.  I try not to burden her with my fears or problems because she has been
through so much loss herself. I have a good ear to listen to your concerns, etc. Hope you have
a pleasant night.  Country Pumpkin   I do not know the rules and regulations about posting
emails?
 
06 oct. 2021, 22 h 37

Hi everyone,
Here is the link to the Discussion Guidelines.  We are not trying to control the conversations, but because this is a public forum - others will have opportunity to see your contact information and we want to ensure safety all around - so we ask that you not post contact information here. 

I do appreciate your patience as I look for a solution. I hope to have more information tomorrow. 

I am glad you have found support here. I know how good it is to feel understood.  Take care and I will be back with more information.

Kind regards,Katherine
 
Réponse de country pumpkin
06 oct. 2021, 22 h 46

Thank you Katherine for the rules and regulation guidline.  I would not want to break any or
offend anyone.  Country Pumpkin


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