I reslly want to help my parents but don't know how to get them "unstuck." They are very isolated and i am not close by. The problem is that my mum has advanced Parkinson'. She seems to be in denial. She won't make any decisions about her care (e.g. going to medical appointment, calling for home care) and won't let my dad make any decisions. In the meantime her moods are erratic and she is abusive to my father. It's not a healthy situation and they are both miserable. I know i can't swoop in and rescue them, but i am looking for advice about how to nudge them in the right direction re: doing some actuss as l end-of-life planning. I don't want my mum to have an awful death but she seems determined to hold on to control until the probably (?) bitter end.