Hi Mary,
Your words in the last post are so accurate – it is not right. It’s really hard when you have to be the one who has to ‘tell’ him when to eat, and when to go to bed. But it seems to me your hands are the ones he trusts (has always trusted) – and even though he may not be able to comprehend or understand when you are talking to him or providing him with care – if he were able to, he would know you are doing these things with love and for his best interests. These are not easy times for either of you – but I admire your courage in doing and saying the hard things.
Be gentle with yourself – we don’t have crystal balls to tell us how things will look tomorrow let alone weeks or months down the road. You made a promise to care for your husband at home when things were different. Whatever happens, whether you are able to continue caring for him at home with added help or he goes into hospital or hospice (for the support and safety of both of you) you are definitely not a failure.
Thinking of you Mary – across the miles
Katherine