It’s nice to hear from you CP. Even though you don't have your counsellor anymore, I hope that we – here at virtualhospice.ca - can be a comfort to you.
I would imagine that accomplishing all the work at the farm must have been emotionally difficult. But at the same time, I hope you feel a sense of accomplishment and that you are proud of yourself.
“Keeping busy” is a grief coping mechanism that many people use, but some people over-use it to the detriment of their health.
I hope that you are able to slow down a bit and recuperate. Your family needs you – healthy.
It’s interesting how time and generations cause us to see life differently. In my case, I had a great mom but my dad, well – “not so much”.
When I got married and had children, I realized that our parents can teach us what to do – sure. But they also provide us with valuable lessons in what not to do.
Through the example of my Mom, I have become a very loving, dedicated parent – at least that’s what my kids tell me, anyway. Lol
Through the example of my dad, I have realized that alcohol and infidelity can ruin everything. Thank God I have been able to avoid both.
I didn’t mean to make this posting “all about me”. I just wanted to share with you how through examples (good and bad), my parents have helped me become the best “me I can be”.
My daughters are all grown up. Now it’s grandkids for me to fuss over.
Your 11-year-old daughter is lucky to have you as such a kind, tender and loving mom.
She is learning much about love, observing how much you love your mother.
How you successfully (and you will) pull through will be an important life-lesson for her.
Your love and dedication in raising her will be a great honour and dedication, and one of the sweetest things that you can ever do for your mom.
She’s looking down, smiling – even at me, this perfect stranger – saying, “Thanks for reaching out to my baby, eKim. I was talking to your mom over on Cloud 9 and she told me what a good boy you are.” My mom is a real chatterbox. She’ll talk to anyone, anytime, anywhere – even on the “other side”.
- Love, joy, peace and hope.
- eKim
Ps, Yes, I did tear up writing this. It always happens when mom taps me on the shoulder like this.
Pps You said, “It’s beautiful to write.” Yes, it is CP.
It is cathartic
Everyone needs healing of some sort. All of us.
It is self-edifying.
Through the laying out of our own words, we learn things about ourselves that we “knew” but somehow we “forgot that we knew”. It is amazing how far this hidden self-knowledge can bring us along our path of healing.
Sometimes we think that all the answers lie outside of us. Perhaps we would do well to remember the message given to Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, “You had the power all along, my dear,”