Hello Ceildah
You have already been warmly welcomed to community - but I want to say hello to and tell you I am glad you found us.  

I was looking back into the archives of our discussion forums for words that I could add to the wonderful ones you have already been given. I found this posted back in 2012 to Scared to say goodbye. I know GWTBB is talking about her mother, but perhaps there is an idea here that might be helpful for you.

She writes, "I thought “how can I say goodbye to a person I love so very much?” So, instead of goodbye, I decided to thank her for being such a loving and wonderful mother. I remember sitting down with her one day when she was still feeling okay. I told her how much I loved her and how she was such a very good Mom. She told me that she loved me so much and that she had appreciated that I had taken care of her because it made the whole thing less stressful for her. She told me that she wouldn’t worry about me because she knew I was a strong person (when things get tough nowadays, I think of her saying those words)."

Take care Ceildah
Katherine 

Hello everyone,
I have thought about you over the last few weeks Ceildah - wondering how you are doing thinking too about the conversation of balance. As EastCoastPEI says - it's delicate.

A new member, Mark's sister posted to  When grief is fresh and feelings are raw.this morning. Her brother too was diagnosed with esophageal cancer and died this past Friday. 

Could I ask those who are able to consider responding to her?  Thanks for thinking about it. 
Katherine